Gratitude Journal Day 5 – Dinner

Today has been a great day, and one that I am very grateful for having experienced. All of the things that I am highlighting today revolve around family and the blessings that they bring into my life.

Dinner time shenanigans.
My first moment of gratitude is for dinner tonight with the kids and having funny silly laughs. We were eating dinner and then randomly one of them started singing the alphabet song but with the letters jumbled up and the need to spot the difference. This game just got sillier and sillier with each turn a person had. The sheer joy and laughs that were had over something so random is a huge highlight for me, I am grateful to be able to share those moments with the kids.

The work done by my wife behind the scenes.
I am constantly blown away by the things that my wonderful “partner in crime” does behind the scenes. Firstly, she puts up with me, and secondly the care that she takes in preparing lovely meals for us to enjoy – even if she is going out. I learn a lot every day from the amazing things that she continues to do to look after our family.

Quality time.
I am fortunate with the job that I have. While I work hard throughout the term and there are many nights that I am away, late or need to work additional hours once home due to incidents that occur needing my attention I am fortunate to then have the time on holidays to spend with my family. I am aware that not everyone gets the benefit of the downtime that I do. I try to stay grateful for this time, cherishing it and the opportunity to be fully present in the now instead of distracted by things to come in the future. Today this looked as simple as having my eldest come up to me while walking through the shops and deciding to hold my hand while walking through the shopping centre, having a conversation with the youngest about what he’d enjoyed about today, or listening to a great riddle that the middle one has made up and so proud that no one could actually get it.

90 Day Running Challenge 2024 – Day One

The 2nd of October marks 90 days until the end of the year. Just as like last year, I have decided to treat these last 90 days as an additional running challenge for me to help in keeping myself accountable and break things down as I work towards larger goals. This goal for 2024 being to try and run 2024km in 2024.

I went into today’s run sitting at 1286km for the year, this being behind where I had hoped to be. This week has seen me make good progress having completed 2x 10km runs over the Monday and the Tuesday, Wednesday was a planned lighter day with 8.5km planned to be completed. Before running I have done the maths on what I need to run over this challenge to reach my year goal: I need to run 738km over the 90 days to make my goal. If I break this down into weeks (13 to go until the end of the year) it means needing to run just under 57km per week. This is a bit of a step up from my usual 53km a week during school terms, however my December can see me increase the kms if I go by last year’s efforts of 250km in December.

Today’s run had the added challenge of weather, there is an extreme weather warning in place for the Perth Metro Area today which meant I had to think about the best time to go. Looking at the weather, I decided it was an early start so was up at 4:45am to make my way to Lake Monger. I got started just after 5:00am and managed to get through the first 5.5km before the heavens opened ad the rain started to fall – I got absolutely soaked over the next 3km. I couldn’t help but love the experience, finishing my 8.5km drenched but also buzzing with such enthusiasm for how good the run was – how good is it to be able to do this sort of thing!

I won’t be posting everyday of the challenge, I find that too much of a burden. I will continue to give updates once a week or fortnight. Tomorrow will see me back to the 10km efforts with me looking at then doin a 12km to finish off the week on Friday. Let’s see how close I can get to that 2024km!

Gratitude Journal Day 4 – Abundance.

Today has been the fourth day of me trying to be conscious about finding things in my life to be grateful for. Today proved to be an easy one for many reasons, however I am going to focus on keeping to sharing only about three: Running in the rain; Family and friends; Impromptu moments with the kids.

Running in the rain.
Despite being one month into Spring, a severe weather warning was issued for today which included high level winds, possible thunder storms, hail, and lots of rain. I still wanted to get my run in first thing in the morning and knew in looking at the weather the best bet to avoid the worst of it would be an early start. I was up and going by 4:45am and made my way to Lake Monger where I planned on completing 8.5kms. When I started there was a bit of wind but no rain however, at the 5.5km mark (part way into my second lap) the rain descended and boy did it rain! I got so wet over the last 3kms!!! It might seem like a funny thing to be grateful for, but as I was running along I could help but smile and laugh with joy as the rain soaked me to my core. At around the 7.5km mark I couldn’t help but stretch out my arms as if in victory saying how much I love this! I was still buzzing when I got home so much so that it was difficult to go back to bed and pretend to be asleep for the kids to “wake me up” for a tradition we have in our house.

Well wishes from family and friends.
I had the opportunity to sit and reflect today on how good my life is currently – the number of blessings that I experience everyday. Many of these do have a common element – those that I get to live life with. A thoughtful, heartfelt message sent from someone wishing me well, a reminder that I do have people in my corner who know me and are willing to be invested in my life, appreciating the things that I do for them as well. I hope that in the times that come along that are challenging I can always stop and think about those people special and important in my life. I am who I am partly because of the relationships I have developed and cultivated. Life isn’t meant to be an island of isolation, but lived in relationship and community with others.

Impromptu conversations with kids.
I was sitting on the couch tonight, the kids having just finished dinner when one came and sat next to me and asked me the simplest question. The question was nothing that was ground breaking or impacting for the benefit of humanity, but in that moment knowing that I had noticed something that they had created and that their work has been noticed by me and is important them is something that I shouldn’t take for granted. I am grateful for the privilege to be able to be a Dad and the responsibility for loving them unconditionally and knowing that they love me unconditionally as well.

Gratitude Journal Day 3 – Time with loved ones

Today’s gratitude revolves around loved ones – particularly family and friends. Too often in life we don’t take time to stop and acknowledge those special to us, those that we do life with everyday and who make it worth living.

Hot chocolate, churros and beach walks.
My first moment of gratitude is getting the time to go out with my family today and enjoy a treat of hot chocolate, churros and a walk along the beach at Hillary’s Boat Harbour. This has become a little bit of a tradition in our family on holidays and one that I really cherish. The additional bonus today was the stunning weather, despite only being a month into Spring it really was turned on today in Perth with a stunning warm day in the high twenties.

Sharing moments of gratitude at dinner.
Tonight, I tried something different at dinner. Instead of asking the kids for one good thing and one challenging I asked them to think of three things they were grateful for. Love listening to their insights from the day and the reflection afterwards from one of the kids that we probably don’t take as much time as we should thinking of what to be grateful for because there’s always things to be grateful for when we stop and think, but we take it for granted. How true she is. I think I might try to make this more of a tradition each night for the kids.

Dinner with a good friend.
As I sit here writing this I am looking forward to being able to go out and have dinner with one of my closest and oldest friends. I haven’t had the chance to properly hang out and spend time for about six months so know I will have a great time. I am grateful for my wife supporting me in spending time with my friends as well as having friends who I can not see a lot of but always pick things up as if we have not been apart.

2024km in 2024 Running Challenge

2024 has seen me undertake a BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal) regarding my running – to run 2024km in the 2024 calendar year. I have been asked by many people why I am doing this, and in all honesty there is no specific reason other than to:

  • Set myself a goal of some sort to work towards.
  • Push and challenge myself.
  • It sounds really cool.

The challenge came to bear off the back of my 90 day challenge at the end of 2023 where I attempted to run 700km over the last 90 days of the year (2nd October – 31st of December). While I didn’t achieve the goal, only managing 580 odd kms, the efforts especially over December where I managed two run 250km made me think that it might be possible to really stretch myself in 2024 and see what happened.

I decided that the best way to achieve this goal, like any big goal, wass to break it down into smaller challenges / targets for me to try and achieve. I did this by setting myself the monthly challenge of running 200kms and then an slightly larger challenge of running between 400 – 500km over the course of a school term depending on the number of weeks of the term. To review the progress, I am going to break it down into reviewing these term challenges.

January:Summer Holidays.
I made the decision that I wanted to get off to a good start over the January period before school went back. Off the back off the good work in December, I knew that keeping the momentum going was important through building consistent habits around when I would run each day, early in the morning before it got hot, and the frequency of runs, keeping to my five runs a week like I would in the school term. I didn't quite manage the five times a week due to running several longer runs (+21 kms) but still managed to complete 17 over the course the month seeing me start off with running 233.4kms for January.

Term One: February – March.
The beginning of Term One saw me undertake three different challenges, my monthly 200kms required for both February and March and the larger Term Challenge which was set at 400kms for the term. Term One was a nine week event due to where Easter was falling, I figured that working towards the 400kms would give me a little bit of wiggle room for if I pulled up sore on a day. Term One went really well, I managed to complete 231.4km in 21 runs over the month of February with me committing to a running routine of 12km for Monday and Tuesday, 5 km for Wednesdays, and finishing with 12kms for Thursday and Fridays.
March was another successful effort, completing 219.8km over 20 runs with me managing to keep the same level of consistency in run lengths and frequency. I did manage one longer run of 21.47km on the March long weekend which, unbeknown to me at this time would prove to be the last extended run that I have completed this year, I will touch on the reasons later. The combined efforts of February and March saw me achieve the Term One goal of 400km, running 513.9km throughout Term One.

Term Two: April – July

Term Two saw me start with great enthusiasm for what was to come. I was making great progress towards my goals being up towards the 800km by the beginning of April, well on target. I decided that the goals and approach from Term One had worked so this would continue into Term Two – 200km expected per month as well as a larger medium goal, this time 500km for Term Two with it being an 11 week term. All manageable, that is until injury crept in which it did.
Interestingly, everyone I told about my challenge said I would get injured from over doing it, however it isn’t the running that cause me problems but rather me going back and playing field hockey. I decided it would be great to pick up the stick and play Masters Div 1 for the local club and I felt great during the game. That night and the next day, however, I could barely walk with it taking a few days before I could put weight back on my feet. Despite this April still saw me hit my target of 200km, coming in at 202.9km but I knew that something was wrong which resulted in me going to see a podiatrist to work out what was wrong with my feet.

The podiatrist suggested me go and have some scans and tests done as my symptoms were inconclusive as to whether it was plantar faciaiitis. I took some time off both playing hockey and running due to the pain levels I was experiencing plus work commitments which resulted in me having the first month this year where I did not reach my target of 200km, instead completing 160.3km. This downward trend continued throughout June, only completing 110.6km resulting in me falling short on the Term Two challenge only managing 401.3km rather than the hoped 500km.

Term Three: July – September
I was still in good spirits about making the overall goal of 2024km in 2024 despite the setbacks of Term Two. Heading into the Term Two holidays, I knew that I was still ahead of schedule and that if I could seep consistency in running, even if reduced in load, that I would make it due to the additional kms I banked early in the year. That was, until I tore my hamstring on the first weekend of the holidays playing hockey. Luckily, it wasn’t a bad tear and it only ended being three weeks of not being able to play, but that was another 150kms that I wouldn’t complete, and then when coming back I would have to gradually build back up which would cost me even more kms and eat away that surplus I had worked on. I decided to use this time to get my right foot sorted out, got the necessary scans and got diagnosed as having a tear in my plantar fascia. While this sounds really bad, it meant the all of a sudden I could have it treated and the rehabilitation start – lots of strapping, stretches, strengthening exercises, inserts for my shoes and new hockey shoes were all required. While I am still having some difficulty with this, everything is heading in the right direction as a commit to my regular twice daily routines and exercises that have been set up. The distance covered over Term Three was minimal which has now put a lot of pressure on me in the backend of the year. July saw me only complete 3 runs in total at 16.4km and 5 runs in August totalling 30.1km.

September has seen me start to be able to build some kms back into the legs. I still only managed to complete 72.9km for the month, however there are promising signs with me now having build up from only doing 5kms a day to increasing to 8kms for the first week of the Term Three holidays before now extending up to 10kms a day in week two of the break. My aim will be back to the routine I did in Term One come next week.

As I move into the remainder of the year I still have hope in achieving my goal. I currently sit at having completed 1,288km for the year which is behind where I wanted to be. However, I still believe that it is possible to complete the 2024km challenge with the time left. Tomorrow is the 2nd of October which will be the beginning of the 90 Day Challenge_2025 in which I will aim to run over 700km in the last 90 days of the year. I will break this down into both my monthly and term challenges (200km for the months of October, November, December, and 450km for Term 4 which is November and December).

I am already looking towards the final week of the challenge and the prospect that I may need to run my furthest distance ever on the last day to achieve the goal. Who knows, if I have 42.2km to go on 30th of December it may mean me needing to complete my first marathon distance to achieve the 2024km in 2024. Wouldn’t that be a blast if that was the case.

Gratitude Journal Day 2 – Sunrise over the lake.

Day two of the challenge sees a bit of change of pace with what I am grateful for today, a bit of an eclectic mix from the early morning sunrise while running, an afternoon at the local park with the family, and taking time to feel the grass underneath my feet after getting back from my run.

The Sunrise and Early Morning Runs.
My first moment of gratitude today occurred nice and early. I decided to sleep in past my usual wake up time of 4:40am with me not getting up until 5:15. I still managed to get to Lake Monger to experience a stunning sunrise over a lake of glass as I completed my first 10km run since returning from injury. After I finished the run I would usually get in the car and head straight home, but instead took an additional few minutes to walk around, stop and listen to the sounds of life passing by and appreciate the colours as they continued to change with the break of day. Sunrises are something that I have come to appreciate with my early morning running regime, however still taking the time to be grateful and not take for granted needs to be an ongoing conscious decision from me.

An afternoon at the local park.
The flow of today and being on holidays provided an opportunity to slow down in itself (which is greatly needed in my life). This afternoon I got the chance to head up the road with the family and enjoy each others’ company at the local park. We took a soccer ball, had a bit of a kick and laugh. I am grateful for living in an area where we have access to parks in walking distance and also for the joy there can be in the simple things like going on the new flying fox – especially the seated one which has had its chains wound round and round to have it spin while flying down, or having kids on the rotating swing and a soccer ball being thrown at them.

Feeling the grass between my toes.
I was so inspired from my run this morning that I wanted to spend some time outside in the backyard once I got back home, bare foot just soaking in nature and the sounds of the day. Listening to the various birds that we have come to visit our yard as well as the moisture beneath my toes from the dew was a great moment before getting on with he day. I am grateful for having the time and space to take these moments before the day gets busy, to stop and breathe.

Gratitude Journal Day 1 – Lego Lego Lego

Today marked the first of my gratitude challenge – identifying things that I am grateful for in my life and why. Today definitely had a theme which is called lego.

Building Lego Houses with my kids.
I was sitting in the back room when one of my kids wanted me to show them how to build a lego house. A recent trip to the local library saw us come home with several “How to Build” lego books and, as most parents would attest to, we don’t have all the lego bits that are in these books. I remember always just having to sit down and work out how to build what I wanted using my own creativity and ingenuity with basic blocks rather than having every specific piece. I sat down with a big box of lego and showed the kids how to build a house in this way, how to create a roof and how to hinge the roof so it could easily be opened for them to be able to play with the inside easily without breaking to roof / walls. Doing this really took me back to my childhood and sitting for countless hours building with lego, it was a joy to do it with my kids and to see the excitement on their face with dad being cool and amazing at building things. The house now has a prize place in their “Legoville” on the lego table.
I am grateful that I had the opportunity to do this and sit with my kids building a simple lego house.

Having a generous family.
I got to catch up with my side of the family for afternoon tea down at Scarborough Beach, it was to celebrate mine and one of the kids’ upcoming birthdays. The joy on everyone’s faces as presents were opened (both from the givers and the receivers) was priceless. Ever since we have gotten home, countless hours has been spent playing with new toys, but even more than the actual material gifts, I am grateful to have a family who went out of their way to want to catch up, acknowledge and celebrate the upcoming birthdays.

Freedom to practise my faith.
I live in a country where, on the whole, I can practise my faith without persecution or fear of death. While sitting in Mass this really dawned on me as prayers were being offered for all those who live in war zones / areas of persecution and trouble currently. May I never take for granted the many freedoms that we have here in Australia compared to other places in the world.

Gratitude Challenge:Beginnings

Wellbeing and mental health have become really important areas of study and exploration for me over the past few years. My role as a leader in the pastoral care at a high school resulted in me becoming increasingly interested in wellbeing and what practises encourage, improve, and enhance an individual’s ability to “live well” from a holistic perspective. This interest has seen me explore various definitions and explanations of what wellbeing is through additional study and reading of academic papers and studies into what contributes to wellbeing; attending courses and workshops exploring positive education, trauma informed practices such as through the Institute of Positive Education, Berry Street, and Australian Children’s Foundation; watching of TED talks on resilience, grit, self-determination theory, eudemonic vs hedonic wellbeing theories; reading of a variety of books; explored the VIA Character Strengths and their application to improve agency and capacity in individuals; countless conversations with school leaders and psychologists who have more experience and a collective knowledge greater than I could ever gain on my own.

I have taken all of this and tried to work on my own wellbeing through adopting a number of habits and boundaries into my daily routine. I find that when I keep to my routine and habits that it has a positive impact on how I feel about myself and world around me, likewise, when I fall into not regularly doing these practises it has a detrimental impact. I have tried to ensure that these routines cover the five domains of needs:

  • Physical.
  • Emotional.
  • Cognitive.
  • Energetic.
  • Spiritual.

This has lead to my routine of early rising, running, stretches, prayer, and saxophone practice prior to the day beginning. Despite all of these practises that have been built into my life, it is still easy to fall into the “Negativity Bias” that we all inherently lean towards as human beings. This is something that I have been working on changing in my job through looking for authentic and meaningful ways to affirm students and colleagues, however I feel I can still work on this a lot more and that’s where this challenge I am going to undertake comes in.

I am currently reading “The Resilience Project” and have been reflecting upon the three key elements that Hugh Van Cuylenburg argues are key to promoting wellbeing: Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness. Reading this book hasn’t really given me any significant revelations, but rather has reminded me of other books and TED talks looking at wellbeing though the Pos. Ed. lens whether that be through the Institute of Positive Education, the Berry Street Education Model, reading books by Seligmen, Street, and Brunzell or the TED talk by Br David Steindl-Radst which I have included a link to this talk below:

I am a big believer in needing to live something if you want to be able to share it with others. I am going to challenge myself over this next three months (the remainder of 2024) to work on finding opportunities for gratitude in my personal life and interactions with others. I am not going to necessarily be looking for the big things, but instead focusing on the small, every day experiences and trying to find things to be grateful for in the midst of every day life. The challenge is going to see me do two things:

  • Keep on online Gratitude Journal: I am going to take ten minutes at the end of every day to stop and reflect on what I am grateful for on that day. My plan is to keep a record of this as an online gratitude journal.
  • Write letters of appreciation / gratitude: One of the strategies written about in “The Resilience Project” was the power of writing letters of gratitude to people for what they have done. I think that as a society we probably don’t acknowledge and show our appreciation for others enough. I am going to work on writing one authentic letter of gratitude to a different person each month. While this doesn’t seem like a lot, it will be a start and I want to see me actually complete the challenge rather than falling short.

These are habits that I would love to become a natural part of the way that I live my life. I know from previous experiences in wanting to add things that it takes small steps – if I do too much too soon I always fall short of what I wanted to do. With this in mind, my posts each day aren’t going to be long winded academic dissertations, rather what I am grateful for and why.

Looking forward to the challenge and seeing how it impacts my wellbeing and outlook on life and the life of those with whom I do life with.

90 Day Challenge: Week 12 Review – A Mixed Week

This last week has been one containing both huge successes and a lot of promise and also quite considerable disappointment and resignation of the inevitable. The week started with me continuing our annual family holiday, this year down in Busselton. Building upon the successes experienced last week I kept up my regular running routine which include my longest run so far on the Monday, completing 25.12km in just over two hours. I was absolutely elated with this, as it bested my previous best distance by a good 3km. Even better, I didn’t pull up too sore or fatigued, giving me optimism that it would still be possible for me to achieve my goal of 700km for the duration of the 90 day challenge.

For all the positives of Monday, Tuesday quickly unravelled this. I had decided to be doing lighter run and only completing at the most 12km for the day. During the run, I felt really good so decided to keep going and complete a longer distance, thinking that it might be possible for me to complete another half marathon distance. Everything felt great until just after the 14km mark when I was running into a head wind and felt my left calf start to tighten up. This has been my troublesome leg for the past ten years, however I knew that I hadn’t pulled anything so reduced my speed and reconsidered my distance – I still had 3km to go before I would be able to be back at the accomodation and I knew the additional for the 21.1km would not be worth the risk. I managed to get back unscathed, but with an exceptionally tight calf and spent the rest of the day with soreness through the muscles and regardless of what a tired I couldn’t release the muscle.

I didn’t manage to run for the remainder of the week, the muscles didn’t release despite my stretching and massaging it throughout the rest of the week days. On Friday I felt that I had some success in releasing it via step downs once we had returned to Perth. Still, I didn’t want to risk a run due to feeling that keeping going throughout the summer is more important than missing a few days. Unfortunately, those few days will have a significant consequence in it now not being possible for me to make the desired 700km before the end of the 90 days. I imagine that I will come up less than 100km short, a distance I would have covered this week. I have also found myself just short of the 200km milestone for December. Hopefully, I will get back out on the track before too long hopefully on Sunday this week) in which case I will be able to break that 200km mark!

90 Day Challenge: Week 11 – A change of scenery.

School holidays, even better than this – Summer School holidays in Australia, meaning I now have a good seven weeks off before heading back to work. I have made myself a goal this year to continue to commit to my weekly running schedule of every week day, hopefully I will be able to build on what I have managed to do throughout the last three months of the year. While it is a slim chance, there is still a possibility of me bringing up the 700km for the 90 Day Challenge, especially after what has proven to be one of the best running weeks that I have experience so far this year. Who knows, I might even be able to build towards hitting a 100km week next week based on the progress this week and how I feel. Regardless of what happens over the next week, one thing that I know about myself is how goals orientated I am. This 90 Day Challenge has really pushed me to commit. Knowing it will come to an end on the 29th of December has got me thinking about what comes next. I have decided to keep going with setting goals and started another challenge from today (11th December) called the “Summer Challenge”. I will write about this once the 90 Days has finished, there will be a couple of weeks overlap, but I will try and run 450km over the Summer holiday break. I big ask – let’s see how that goes.

Being school holidays, we have headed away for some relaxation the before the Christmas rush. This is a great chance to rest, relax, and recover after the busy school year. Before heading down to “Busso” on the Monday afternoon I started off the week with a 16km run which included two laps around Lake Monger. I didn’t set any records for times completed, but doing it in 1:28:49 was a solid effort to start the week.

Tuesday morning saw me start my Busselton runs. I had gotten on maps to try and work out distances and a couple of different courses. My goal will be to complete a run from where we are staying in West Busselton to Siesta Park – on the map it says that it is located 10km away – after one of my runs this week I have since found that it is a little further away than that! I completed an easy 12.62km on the Tuesday morning in a time of 1:07:07. The run is quite flat which could lead to some faster times, however, there is a killer easterly blowing which will slow my return when it is a head wind.

Wednesday morning saw me increased my distance slightly, completing 14.5km. I did a similar route with a slight twist – heading first towards Busselton and doing a loop the jetty precinct before heading back out towards Dunsborough. There a little loop path that I utilised for my turn around just before Abbey Road Beach Resort, I then headed back to Busselton Jetty before finishing any home.

Thursday, my second half marathon and I set a PB for the distance coming in at 1:55:22 which is running at 5’17” per km. I combined the distances of doing the jetty and then also ran further towards Siesta Park. I didn’t get anywhere near it, turning around once past the Abbey Road Beach Resort precinct. I think there’s going to be a decent way further to go to get to Siesta Park!

Friday morning saw me ease off the distances in a recovery sort of effort. I complete 12.46km in a slower time of 5’36” per km.

I have been really happy with the progress this week. I initially thought that I might try to run Saturday and Sunday as well, but then thought having two days to recover is probably a wise idea. Next week, I am going to try and hit the 100km for a week – I’d love to get to Siesta Park at least once. Maybe Monday will be the day!